New Years is a great time for reflection, to look back on the experiences of our past year. It’s such a quiet, deep time. In the darkness of winter, I can really take time to review our collective experiences as a local and global community. We may not realize the collective experience we are having when national or global events occur. Whether it is a terrorist act or a teenager receiving the Nobel Peace Prize, it affects all of our lives individually and collectively as we are all in relationship.
One place we have a collective experience is when public figures pass away. I always get choked up when I see the “who we lost this year” segment on the news.
BB King’s passing is sad not because I was a huge fan, but because he was a groundbreaker who changed the music world. Scott Weiland’s (Stone Temple Pilots) death hit a little closer to home since I had some close ties to him. He was still young, and had young children.
Death from drug addiction is always tragic because it feels so avoidable. Bobbi Kristina Brown’s death was especially sad not only because she was so young, but because she died almost exactly as her mother did. We were rooting for her, hoping she could break the cycle that her mother was a part of.
Even though he shared that he was not at all afraid of death, and that he had lived a great life, Wayne Dyer’s passing had the most impact on me. He taught us that nothing really dies, that we are birthless and deathless. His loving example was and continues to be an inspiration to millions. His dynamism will be missed.
We all collectively experienced so many tragedies in 2015. I think it is important to bring awareness to this.
On our journey towards healing and growth, it is important to share our personal and emotional life with others. It helps to process the intensity of life. It is also important to heal the collective, emotional pain we all feel by speaking about it with others. Gather with some friends and share how you felt about different world events throughout the year. Becoming intimate with our suffering is a key to healing and personal growth.
One beautiful practice you can do together when processing through any fear, sadness or anger; is the Buddhist Loving-kindness practice called Tonglen practice. I suggest this meditation as a way to transform our relationship with our own suffering, and the suffering of others. It is one of the most beautiful meditations I’ve experienced.
If you are interested on this meditation there are plenty of reference online.
Loving-kindness meditation says: May I be happy. May I be well. May I be safe. May I be peaceful and at ease. May you be happy. May you be well. May you be safe. May you be peaceful and at ease.
Another thing I’d like to reflect on is GRATITUDE!
I take time to reflect and share all the things that I am grateful for, all the amazing things that manifested, and all the beautiful relationships that are continuing to blossom. I recognize the magic in life, and my connection to something greater in the universe. I take a moment to see how some of my hardships turned into beautiful learning opportunities.
Taking some time out on New Year’s, and sharing our gratitude for what we have in life, is the best thing ever when we share these with family and community.