You Are Not Toxic

You Are Not Toxic

I’m not cool at all with the phrase “toxic masculinity.” To be fair,  I’m not cool with the phrase “toxic femininity” either. I’ve been holding back on this for a while now. It’s something I’ve talked about many times before,...
Vulnerability is Sexy

Vulnerability is Sexy

Vulnerably sharing is one of the things that a woman wants most from a man, but it can also be one of the most difficult things for a man. A man being challenged to share his feelings is not a new subject that probably doesn’t sound that interesting. But,...
The Gender Shift

The Gender Shift

In the event that you aren’t paying attention, you should know that men (and women) are in the beginning stages of a very challenging, much needed and historic gender shift. Through this shift, men are painfully confused between the old ideas of masculinities and the...
Getting Your Needs Met

Getting Your Needs Met

This past weekend I was teaching a music and yoga festival. It was an amazing weekend of deep work with men and couples. After polling 100 men, I found that more than 75% of them felt they fit into the “people pleaser caretaker camp”. The people pleaser caretaker (or...
Let the Sadness Be Sweet

Let the Sadness Be Sweet

After a breakup lying on the ground in front of my meditation altar tears pouring out of my eyes. Feeling alone on an empty beach watching the sunset in a soft and quiet sadness. Sitting on a park bench in Germany feeling confused in what to do next in life, unable to...
The Subtle Shaming of Men and Vulnerability

The Subtle Shaming of Men and Vulnerability

            A man I knew rarely if ever shared his emotions with his wife. He would often feel unsure and insecure about their relationship; his coping mechanism would be to go into hyper pleasing mode to try and make her happy. His nice guy pleasing mode was a nasty...